Motherhood-the BIG question....

The big question I keep getting as a new mother is "How does it feel to be a mom?" or a different verision..."does it feel different being a mom?"

It's been a while since I posted but we've been kinda busy! I am learning new things each day, and there are little things that are bringing me joy each day as well...despite the complete lack of sleep!

To answer the question is tough. I am not really sure of how to answer...yes it feels different--even thinking back to college days, I have NEVER been this tired before in my life. But at the same time its such a blessing to be this tired- the reason is such a blessing. It doesn't seem to have settled in yet that I AM a mom... I guess that will come when Ben starts talking and is calling me mom...

We have been doing ok... He's made it to getting up at about 2:30 and then 5:30--which I can handle. Some nights are perfect- he wakes, eats his bottle and goes back to sleep. Others not so much- he wakes, eats and then doesnt want to go back to sleep...
Currently we are doing formula with a little bit of breastmilk each day. I had hoped to breastfeed as long as possible, but I apparently get lactation headaches...so everytime I nurse I get a severe migraine. There were many days where I was getting to the point that I was not looking forward to feeding (which made me feel like a horrible mom) and other times where I would just cry the whole time. I struggled with what to do.... I hate that I am unable to do something that should be so natural, and that is so beneficial for Ben...but at the same time (after having tons of people reassure me..and I still feel guilty for stopping nursing) I know that a mommy with a nonstop migraine is NOT good for him either. SO we are on mostly formula. I pump but don't get that much (and still get a migraine) but he's getting a bit each day. I hope to make it to six weeks with him getting at least 2 bottles a day of breastmilk, but I am not sure if we will...we are at 5 weeks but I get less and less each time.. I still get the guilty feelings- esp when someone asks if we are breastfeeding and I have to say no. (and often times the response of "OH your not?" makes me feel even worse) but I simply explain the situation and I feel a tad bit better....

Ben is over a month old now and he's getting bigger each day.
I shower Ben each day with tons of kisses because I know that one day he will be too grown up or too "cool" to have his mommy kiss him.... there are so many times that the laundry is overflowing, or the house looks like a tornado goes through but I know that it can wait. and I spend time sitting there just holding him. He recently noticed his hands and will sit and just twist them around staring at them...its so cute! He also sits and stares at his mobile now... or in the car stares out the window. Our other favorite thing that he does is he talks ALL the time. even when he's got his pacifier he's making all kinds of cute little cooing noises. He has also figured out his neck muscles...he's been trying to hold his head up since we were in the hospital, but he's got good control of it now. We are totally in love.
He's in his crib now, instead of the bassinet, and I've managed to start figuring out the different cries and noises he makes.. so I no longer leap out of bed only to get to the nursery only to find out that he was just talking in his sleep. I'm also learning to let him cry sometimes...his Grandad says that he needs it- to exercise his lungs. sometimes he still gets me...and screams and screams and when I get there he's asleep again..

As for me, I'm stuck in a rut trying to find things to wear.. I have about 2 outfits I alternate... I have never been one to enjoy working out but I know I need to, and I have the motivation now that I need to do it not for me, but for Ben... so hopefully one day sooner than later I can start wearing non-maternity clothes again!

Being a new mom is hard- I feel like some days all I manage to do is feed, change diapers, wash bottles, and do mini-loads of laundry. We have been peed on, pooped on and spewed on.... But I wouldnt trade it for the world. Ben has been such a blessing in our life and I can't hardly remember what it was like BEFORE he was here!

Benjamin Andrew Walz is here!

I've not had a chance to update....mainly because after that last post, baby decided he wanted to come early!

Benjamin Andrew Walz
born July 22, 2009 at 7:22 pm
7lbs 4 oz 20.5 inches long

a quick version of the birth story....
It started on tues when I went to ob triage due to a SEVERE migraine an very high blood pressure. They did some blood work and told me that when the labs came back and my pain level had decreased (they gave me percocet) that we would be going home. they came back a little while later and told me that my labs came back good except for one. They said my platelets were low. Then they went on to explain that the dr decided to go ahead and admit me and inducce me that night, since they weren't sure if my migraine was from the blood pressure, or vice versa. Tim and I were in shock. we werent expecting that! so they admitted me and we started making our calls. after we got to the room they induced me and sometime in the early morning they started pitocen. Sometime in the morning they broke my water. By 230 the pain was at a point where I couldn't take it anymore- Ben was not in a good position... so I decided to get the epidural. it worked nicely at first but wore off before 4 on the right side. (the side where Ben was) so they gave me another dose....and after that NEITHER side was numb. and the contractions were worse... I was dialated to 5 cm for 9 hours and they were planning a csect if I didnt dialate any more before 7:30 pm. by 6 I was willing for the csect because the pain (due to the pitocen) was SO horrible ( I threw up multiple times because of it) and to top it off Benjamin was pushing against my bone on the right side AND was sunny side up. They began setting up the operating room because around 7 I was still at 5 cms. all of a sudden Ben decided he was coming vaginally. and they could hardly get enough help in there they kept telling me not to push and to keep breathing He was SOO ready if I was breathing I HAD to push...and if I DIDNT push I couldnt breathe. SO by the time he came out (6 mins total pushing) the pain was gone and I felt so much better.. the rest of the night and next day I had drs and nurses visiting me because they couldnt believe he wasnt born via c-section .

He had jaundice so we stayed in the hospital a little longer than we would have liked but they let us come home Friday night with a bili blanket to put him on to help with the jaundice. we have been super busy and figuring this whole parentng thing out since so updates will be slim for a while! Ill try and keep updated with pictures and things for everyone to see!

time flies!

Oops! I guess posting got put on the back burner.....SO I figured I would do a quick update while I wait for Tim to get home from an Eric Church concert at the beach......since soon updating will def be the last thing on our minds!

The kitchen has been (is still in the process of) redone since my last post. new counters, new floor and fresh paint! it is almost finished. hopefully by next week. Mom and Dad have been coming up to help get the house ready....now if I could get a maid to show up overnight and get it CLEAN.....hmm. no chance I know... since we are under renovations throughout the house its really messy...but the baby's room is done. so its ready for him and thats the impt thing....
We also sent our "foster puppy" home this week. I miss her because she REALLY was a good dog, and Rascal has been sad since she left.....but it's nice to be able to walk to the back yard and pet my dog without him getting jealous because someone else is standing near me!!

Baby Boy will be here soon! we are excited and nervous all at the same time. We have just about everything we need and it's a good thing since we are down to 2 weeks and 3 days about.. Majority of the family thinks he's coming early...and I know his Uncle Billy wants him to come before he has to go back to Afghanistan.... Everything has been good so far. I'm def swelling alot more and that's getting kinda uncomfortable so hopefully he doesnt decide to hang out for TOO long... The last dr appt went well. I measured 36 weeks, even though I was 37. I was dialated to one cm and baby is head down but not engaged. so we will see what they say at the next appt--if we make it that long!

We spent last week in Denton, and Tim counseled camp..while I visited as much as I could. I HATE when I cant get out there! the camp was smaller which was nice in a way....but at the same time a FEW more kids would have been nice too! Well I guess that is all the updating for now... I need to go work on this house!!

Updates!

So I thought that I'd be on here sooner to get some pictures up but I didnt get a chance...
here is our updated basement after the lovely pipe burst.....



And here is the updated belly pic! I can't believe that it's already the 3rd trimester.

2 down 1 to go!!

Yesterday was my first day of the 3rd trimester! It's crazy how quick this has gone by but at the same time there are moments when it seems like it is dragging! I plan on trying to post a bit more today or in the next couple days..the basement is practically finished so we have new pictures of that....and some other things to post. Hope everyone is doing well!

unexpected renovations...

SO a couple weeks ago we came home from visiting mom and dad only to find a busted pipe in the basement. The ceiling was soaked as was the carpet. Thank God for homeowner's insurance. We called our ins and they came to look at it the next day. So this week we start EXTRA unplanned renovations... They will be fixing our ceiling, repainting EVERYTHING and new carpet. I'll have to post pics as the work begins. For now. Here's the damage. (I haven't posted pics on the updated bathroom simply because it's still in progress....as are many other rooms)

CONGRATS!!!!!

Just wanted to say Congrats to Daniel and Mindy...
Cecilia Ann was born tonight at 9:13pm weighing in at 8lbs 2 oz and 22 in long. I can't wait to go meet her tomorrow!!!